It can be crushing when the Law of Attraction fails. You want something so badly and you're doing everything you can to make it happen, but all you see are signs that the Law of Attraction isn't working.
When the Law of Attraction fails, what should you do?
Is something going wrong for the Law of Attraction to fail?
Do you need to change the tools you're using to manifest your desire?
I'll answer those questions and more, but first here are some questions and examples submitted by readers. I hope they can help you gain some insight and know you are not alone.
“Missing the sign” asks, “I asked [the] universe [for] a special sign in 24 hours if my desire (a job) is manifesting, but nothing 🙁 . What [does] it mean? I should correct my method?”
“Show me the money” wrote, “I have asked for 2 things from the universe- 1 to come into millions of euro and 2 to get my dream car. I have had the feeling the something is manifesting or in the works for this to happen regarding the car and since I have asked for my dream car I have seen loads of the car almost every day, in fact in the space of 30 mins today I saw 9 of them! [I]t’s a unique model so [it] wouldn’t be that common.
The thing is there doesn’t seem to be any sign of the money manifesting as I had 3 opportunities to get what I asked for over the last week and nothing happened so I don’t know what’s wrong here?”
“Down and out” asks, “I do find that I always get stuck in ruts. I’ll see a TON of stuff happen that I want to happen….then things will stop.
My question is how to continually keep the “blessings” flowing. It's not as if I intend for bad stuff to happen…but if things don’t go my way I stop believing in my ability and it's a downward spiral. How do I stop being a “fair weather manifestor”? As always, thank you!!! :D”
My Answer
The Law of Attraction never fails.
It always brings you what you ask for most strongly.
You may have the best idea of what you want to manifest. You may know all the details about the job you want or exactly how you'll spend your millions of euros.
But if you aren't putting the right energy into it, your intention probably won't manifest.
Your emotions tell you what kind of energy you're putting into manifesting your desire. Positive emotions like joy and love involve an energy that attracts your desire to you. Negative emotions like fear and doubt can repel your desire, producing an experience where it appears the Law of Attraction fails.
The energy itself comes from the Universe. It's the energy you tap into when you use heart energy.
You can tell how strongly you're tapped into Universal energy by your emotions.
- Little to no emotion means you're using very little energy to create your desire.
- Negative emotions indicate you're not creating what you want (the experience of the Law of Attraction failing).
- The more positive your emotions, the more energy you're putting into attracting your desire to you.
You can't experience both positive and negative emotions and expect good results. When one moment you're worried that the Law of Attraction isn't working because things aren't happening when and how you want them to, and then another moment you feel really happy that you have your new job, you're sending the Universe mixed signals.
It's like you're vibration is saying, “Yes, bring me that,” and then you immediately say, “No, send it back.” You're effectively canceling you're order before you ever receive it. Thus, it appears that the Law of Attraction fails.
Yet, the Law of Attraction never fails because it always brings you what you asked for most strongly.
Even the most innocent thoughts and statements can have a powerful impact on what you manifest, especially when they are combined with emotion.
“The Law of Attraction isn't working”
Have you ever said that? Or thought it?
If you're like most people, you were probably frustrated, disappointed, or upset when you did so.
Every time you've thought or uttered this phrase, you've affirmed to the Universe that the Law of Attraction isn't working.
Because the Universe brings you what you believe and expect, it brings you more experiences of the Law of Attraction isn't working for you.
Every time you think that your desire isn't manifesting, is taking forever, is hard to manifest, and so on… you are giving power to the belief that your desire isn't manifesting, is taking forever, is hard to manifest…
You are affirming the belief and experience of “The Law of Attraction isn't working.”
If you changed your beliefs, you would attract experiences of the Law of Attraction working.
This can be as simple as changing your thoughts.
You can start with “The Law of Attraction is working.”
You may also like, “I believe in my ability to manifest.”
Before you know it, your beliefs and experiences will switch from the Law of Attraction fails to the Law of Attraction works.
It's that easy.
“But I've been doing all of that and the Law of Attraction still fails!”
If this has happened to you, you may feel like maybe you're just not supposed to have your desire. Maybe it's just not meant for you. Maybe it's just not possible.
That might sound good or make you feel better…
But if you want to know why something failed to manifest, you need to look at the meaning behind it. The meaning is what caused you not to manifest it.
If you say that you're not supposed to have it or that it's not possible, then that is the belief you have that created the situation you're in.
In other words, you didn't believe you're supposed to have the job, and as a result, you attracted a situation where you didn't get the job.
You didn't believe it was possible for you to suddenly have million of euros, and so you didn't attract millions of euros.
What you attract will line up with your belief system.
The Law of Attraction didn't fail because of your manifesting process, how often you visualized, or how many signs you saw. You attracted what you believed.
What looked like the Law of Attraction failing was actually a message about what you really want and about what you believe.
You really need to work on trusting the Universe. Instead of looking at all the signs you're receiving and saying, “But it isn't here,” you need to trust that the signs mean it is coming.
Whenever you focus on how your desire hasn't arrived yet, you're second guessing the Universe and creating more delays in receiving it.
You can't blame the Law of Attraction for your not having manifested what you want. The Law of Attraction is working just fine. It always is.
You just need to become more aware of your unconscious thoughts and beliefs. Those are what you're manifesting.
When the Law of Attraction fails, it's a sign to look within and clear up your limiting beliefs.
Hi! This is really helpful:) I use the LOA to manifest a specific person. A person who I know and have had a sort of relationship with. At the time, we don’t have any contact. But I know he has feelings for me, it was just some things that made it difficult for us to be together at the time. Sometimes when I think of him and try to visualize us together in a happy and loving relationship, I feel relaxed and happy. I feel that I already have what I’m asking for. But sometimes I feel sad, specially when I wake up in the morning. It is difficult to “let go” and not to think about the past and things that could be done different. But whenever this thoughts come to my mind, I try not to think that way. I have read your book on how to manifest a specific person, and I have done my “work”. Creating the relationshiplist and visionboard was exciting and made me very happy! The same goes with making room for the relationship in my life. But the more of these things I do, the more I think of him. He’s constantly on my mind, and it’s difficult not to think of him.. What should I do?
I’ve been working for a couple months on attracting a specific person back into my life. Thank you so much for your blog. It’s super helpful and my attitude has completely shifted. I’m happier than ever before and practicing gratitude every day has been life changing. I am grateful for you blog because it has made me into a person who I fall more and more in love with every day.
I’ve definitely been seeing results in other aspects of my life. In fact, I’ve managed to attract two old exes back into my life who just popped in to say “hello” and wanted to catch up randomly. I also thought about an old friend who I haven’t seen since high school and the next day he got in contact with me too. Then, I saw the roommate of the person who I am trying to attract out and about.
I feel really good about my ability to manifest people into my life. However, it’s kind of strange that I manifested two other exes and all sorts of people but not (yet) the one I’m trying to bring back into my life. Any suggestions? Am I just not trusting God enough? Do I just need to be patient and keep on keeping on? Thanks for any encouragement you can provide.
Leigh Ann, I too have read Elizabeth’s wonderful book on Love! I had something similar happen and I looked at it from the prespective of the Universe was asking me if I was sure my special guy was the “ONE”.
I just did my best to stay focused on my goals of who I wanted the relationship with, and trusted that the one was on his way. I know it can be frustrating sometimes. It was for me and I really had to focus on staying positive, feeling good, even repeating to myself that “I trust the Universe and God”.
I kept reminding myself to never consider I would do anything but succeed and pretending that everything happened fast. Once I relaxed a little, that is when he contacted me.
Hi Maxine,
Did you and your guy get back together after he contacted you?
-Claudia
Hi Leigh Ann,
From reading Elizabeth’s book and her articles here, it sounds like the issue could be attachment or your beliefs.
You attract your other ex’s because you’re not attached to that outcome. You’re probably attached to the outcome of the specific ex you’re trying to attract (which create strong feelings of want, and continues to manifest situations where you “want” to be with your ex, instead of being with them).
Hi Claudia,
How do you detach from the outcome????
I have tried the method of saying “I want this or something better”. That hasn’t worked for me.
I noticed in your post you mention being attached creates feelings of “want” rather than “have”.
Does that mean you detach from the outcome by just trusting what you want is yours already.
Helen
Hi Helen,
Yes, it all goes back to that major concept of the Law of Attraction of trusting and feeling like you already have it and it is the hardest part to fully “get” in the law of attraction especially when trying to manifest a desire you really want such as a relationship with a specific person. Desire/wanting is the first step in attracting but you have to get to the point of feeling like you already have it to really manifest.
Its been the hardest part for me to grasp as well, but from experience I can tell you that when you finally let go, whether it happens naturally or because you’re faith is strong, that is when things happen.
Hi Claudia,
That makes a lot of sense. Part of the reason it has been challenging for me to let go is because I am already in the relationship.
My intention is to change the relationship and make it better. I guess I need to work on just trusting that despite any outward appearances, that everything is going to work out the way I want it to.
I too would like to learn more on how to detach and just trust that everything will work out the way I want it to. How do you get to that point when you are already in a relationship you want to change?
Dear Helen,
I have been where you are. I really had to force myself to look at only the things my husband did that I liked or loved. I had to force myself to let go of the stuff I didn’t like because that stuff is lack. You want to create abundance, so try as hard as you can to focus only on what you like.
I love my husband deeply and there were days where I felt sad, I really was missing how things had been, and it was very hard to think loving feelings and focus only on things he did that I liked or loved.
Yes I agree it can be challenging, but I did it and so can you! Think about the things he does that you like or love. Think loving thoughts about him, but forget about anything that could be lack. Think how you want things to be. Look at him and think about how much you love him. Tell yourself you believe it will get better.
It gets easier and soon you will see the positive changes you want. I did. Things are amazing again for me and my husband together! We are so happy together!
Thanks everyone for your input. I want you to know I am taking your advice to heart and focusing on only the good things, and trusting!!
Thank you again.
Helen
I have been trying to attract a specific person. We met two months ago and felt an instant attraction. The thing is that we live in two different countries which are about 5,000 miles apart. We have been keeping in touch via email which means we email each other every 3-4 days. I have been trying to use the law of attraction but I don’t know if I should email him in the meantime. What do you all think? Should I keep emailing him? Or should I stop? In our emails we just talk about our lives, it’s just a friendly chat.
Lily – Elizabeth goes into detail on how to use the law of attraction to attract a specific person in her book, Manifesting Love.