Manifesting love and relationships can be a struggle for many people. They believe manifesting love will make them the happiest person alive, but they often find it challenging to attract and maintain the relationship.
I firmly believe that, with the Law of Attraction, you can easily manifest successful, loving relationships.
You can manifest the type of relationship you want with the person you want, but you must follow it through to the end.
There might be times when things seem difficult – you might feel like you've lost hope or it seems like it's taking forever…you might feel like it isn't working or you're doing something wrong…
But those are simply signs that you are not in vibrational alignment with the love relationship you want to manifest.
So let me give you some success tips for manifesting love and relationships:
1. With whom do you want to be in a relationship?
A specific person might come to your mind. Is it this exact person that you want or does he or she simply possess the qualities that you desire your partner to have?
If it's an exact person, does this person genuinely satisfy all your needs or are you settling because you think there is no one else out there for you? Many times people fixate on a specific person because there is an underlying fear – fear of being alone, fear of rejection, fear of what others will think if they can't make this relationship work…
It's easy to not recognize this fear when you're caught up in the pain of heartache.
So imagine for a moment…
You are opening a door and before you is standing your specific person. What do you feel? Why?
If you're surprised? Why are you surprised? Maybe a part of you no longer believes it's possible to be together. If you're happy, why are you happy?
What's the next thing after surprise/happiness that comes up?
What is scary about him or her being there standing in front of you? Where in your body do you feel that?
What is it about him or her standing in front of you that makes you feel relieved?
Do you feel anger or a desire for revenge when you see your specific person standing in front of you?
These questions should have given you a better idea of whether it is the specific person you want or if he or she simply possesses the qualties that you're looking for in a partner. It can also reveal the areas of resistance and blockages you need to work through before you can manifest the easy, successful relationship you would love to have.
2. What energy are you projecting?
Manifesting love and relationships requires projecting the right kind of energy. You might say, believe and truly want to be in a relationship with someone, but energetically you might be creating the opposite in every single way possible.
There may be a specific person you want to be with who is exactly what you want, but he/she doesn't act the way you want. He may not treat you the way you think he should. She may not be willing to give up the things you think she should.
It's natural to begin to criticize the person. You might even begin to make sacrifices, try to change yourself, or make excuses for the other person just so that you can manifest a relationship with them. But you're not truly aligned with the person or the relationship. You will end up projecting negative energy onto them and onto yourself.
You need to ask yourself if this is someone you truly want to be with. If they are, then learn to love them exactly as they are. Focusing on how they don't act the way you want will only create more of those experiences. You have to stop focusing on all the hurt they have caused you if you truly want them in your life.
If you decide this isn't someone you truly want to be with, look around and see if there's someone who treats you the way you want. Have you been rejecting them? What is it about this person that is worthy of love? Have you been looking for a reason to not be with them even though they are what you want? Why? What are you afraid of?
3. Opening up to manifesting your love relationship
Manifesting love and relationships occurs when you're ready to throw away safety nets and the idea of settling for someone who is second best. It's about loving yourself so much that you will only accept the relationship you truly want.
You have to release all sense of desperation and neediness, both of which come from fear. You have to deeply want the other person. You have to want to be with them despite any obstacles, any flaws, any hardships… You have to want to be with them for the good and bad, warts and all. This is the want that love comes from.
You have to be ready to be in a relationship with them AND you have to be ready to be happy with them.
When you are, you will have a loving mindset that naturally draws more love to you. It can happen sooner than you think. Just live as if you already have it and enjoy the process.
So who do you want?
That's your key to successfully manifesting love and relationships.
I’m in an unusual situation and hope I’m doing things correctly.
There is a specific person I want to be with. I feel good (REALLY good) about being in a relationship with this person; I’m keeping my vibration high and I really feel that I will be and should be with this person, regardless of how long it my take or what may happen in the meantime. I’m doing great visualizations and living in my heart and mind as if I already am with this person and not letting anything get me down. I feel like I am getting a lot of signs from the universe that it’s working on it.
Here’s the issue, and it’s the only thing that concerns me….
I am currently married, but I don’t want to be with my spouse anymore. I’m not willing to instigate a breakup because me spouse is still in love with me and I promised to stay with them when we got married. I plan to keep that promise; they would have to initiate any breakup. I haven’t done anything to indicate that I want to be with someone else, and I could never bring myself to break their heart. I am greatful for this relationship and trying to learn what I am supposed to be learning from being in it. I still love my spouse, I’m just not “in love” with my spouse.
With LOA, I’m not focusing on how this relationship will end, just the end result. I felt guilty at first, but I am adding to my visualizations that my spouse ends up in a better situation than they are with me, whatever that may be.
I don’t feel like I’ve been prompted to take an inspired action by the universe to end my current relationship.
I feel like I should have a question here, but I don’t know what it should be. Can the LOA do this? I’m guessing the answer is yes, it can do anything. Am I wrong for wanting this? I’m guessing the answer is no since I’m envisioning a situation where everybody is happy/happier at the end. I guess I’m just curious about what people who have been in situations similar to mine thing.
Thanks for reading,
JAG
LOA requires action, but you’re telling Source, “I really want to be with this other person, but I absolutely won’t take any action to be with them.” If you won’t do anything to end your current relationship, then you’re not moving towards being with the other person. You’re telling Source how your current relationship will have to end, but you’re not the one who says how things are supposed to happen. That’s up to Source.
You’re supposed to allow things to happen while moving forward towards your dreams. You’re not moving and are telling Source you will not move. When there’s something people want, they do what it takes to get there. If you’re not willing to do what it takes to be with the person, then maybe you don’t want to be with the other person as much as you think you do.
If you truly wanted what was best for your spouse and loved them, you would be honest with them. It isn’t fair to lead them on. If you weren’t married, you probably would have already ended the relationship because it would be what is best for both of you. If you’re not in the marriage “til death do us part”, what’s the point in going through the motions because you’re too scared to be honest with your spouse, even if it would hurt them. To me, you’re staying because it’s the easy thing to do. It’s an excuse. You’re still getting something out of the relationship or you would have left. It’s easier to stay and let them end it because your conscience will feel better, you won’t feel guilty, you’ll feel like a better person. Who cares? That isn’t what this is about. That isn’t LOA. That isn’t life. Sometimes life just sucks and you have to do the right thing even if it’s hard or you judge yourself and choose to feel lousy.
You’ve already already checked out of your relationship even though you say you’re staying because you promised you wouldn’t leave them. You’ve left them emotionally, mentally and spiritually. There’s more to a marriage than being physically present. Your spouse deserves better.
If you truly will not do anything to end your current relationship, I suggest you start turning your relationship into the relationship you want to have. Since you say you love your spouse, what can you do to be the spouse they deserve? What can you do to create your dream relationship with your current spouse?
Abraham has videos on youtube about how marriage isn’t meant to be forever. You should check them out.
Shelby;
Thanks for your feedback. I understand what you’re saying, but as I alluded to feel like I’ve been asking “What should/can I do to move this along?” and I’m not receiving any guidance to do anything. I understand that there’s a chance I am and sub-consciously I’m not seeing it, but I’m seeing TOTALLY CRAZY “signs” that the Universe is working on the situation, so I’m kind of not sure what to think.
I’m working on visualizing the “end result” which is me being with my “target.” I’m not particularly visualizing anything with my current spouse other than they are in a better situation. I’m guessing/hoping the LOA will create the circumstances that enable that to happen, like maybe they will meet someone they would rather be with…?
I do want to be honest with my spouse, but there is an issue there. Since we’ve been married they have become increasingly “emotionally unstable” and co-dependent on me. This has been made worse by the fact that their cousin’s husband came home a few weeks ago and abruptly announced that he didn’t want to be married anymore and we leaving. Their brother’s marriage also appears to be getting rocky. Both of these are effecting them WAY more than they should. I’m legitimately scared what they might do if I tell them I don’t want to be here anymore. It’s crossed my mind that it may lead to a suicide attempt. This is not because I’m some great catch or anything, it’s just a case of it being the “last straw” for someone who’s already having stability problems.
They are getting therapy for their issues, but it’s been almost a year and frankly I think they are getting worse. I’ve tried to hint that they should think about finding a different therapist but even that suggestion led to a bit of a break-down.
But, to be clear, in spite of it all, if the Universe does tell I will need to “hurt” them, I won’t like it but I will do it, I just haven’t’ felt that yet. Maybe the Universe has other/better plans for them and I still have a part to play (?)
And as I eluded to in my response to Lil, I have time. I’m not worried about this happening overnight. To be honest, if the Universe decided that it needs to take a couple years I would not be surprised (for reasons I don’t want to get into). I can be patient, because this person is worth it. But, a lot can happen in two years, so maybe the time just isn’t right yet (?)
I think it’s a little presumptuous to suggest that I’ve totally checked out of this marriage though. Quite the opposite; I’m doing everything I can to help them with their issues. And frankly it’s exhausting. But if I do need to leave them I would rather do it with them healthier than they are now, and again, I haven’t received any guidance that I should do otherwise. I can still love and care for someone without being “in love” with them. Maybe I’m supposed to stay with my current spouse until they can manage on their own (?). Due to these issues, I might not leave them if we were not married. It feels too much like kicking someone when they are down.
Just as a footnote, I wasn’t super excited about marrying this person. I was largely pressured into it by them, our (really, their) church and their family. Yeah, that’s my fault. But, it’s also pretty much what their cousins husband said when he announced he was leaving and this would totally be twisting the knife. 🙁
There are a lot of questions I just don’t know the answers to. But, I feel like the LOA is really bringing me and my target together. I’m trying to be open to what it wants me to do about my current relationship, but I feel like it wants me to just do what I’m doing for now.
Again, thanks for your post and your honesty. It wasn’t what I wanted to hear, but it might have been what I needed to hear. I’m not trying to make excuses, and I am realizing that I’m not going to get out of this guilt free, but I just haven’t felt the “push” from the Universe to make it happen; I’ve just been feeling “the time isn’t right.”
Do you mean Abraham Hicks? I found several videos, is there one you specifically recommend? Thanks!
JAG,
I’m in the exactly same situation as you; same doubts as well. I don’t really know what to say to you right now, but I’m sure “envisioning a situation where everybody is happier at the end” is a nice thing to do; it seems you’re on the right path. So nice of you to thing about your spouse with such respect and kindness… I’ve being trying to do the same.
I really wish all goes well and you can have your desires fulfilled. Let us know how things go.
Best.
Lil
Thanks Lil, I hop your situation works out as well.
I’m trying to push the doubts aside, and it’s gotten easier. I have not doubt that things will work and I’ll get to be with the person I want to be. I’ve tried to do things like this in the past and been my own worst enemy. This time I’m oddly calm and patient with the process. I understand that it might take a while (there are other things in play, and this taking 18 to 24 months actually works out quite nicely) and my “target” my see other people in the meantime (they may have to be with a few jerks before they can appreciate me).
Everyday that passes, I feel better about this, so I’m taking that as a good omen. 🙂
I just read Shelby’s comment and thought those are wise words. (Thanks, Shelby.)
…. I’m glad I’ve found LOA, Neville’s words, Elizabeth’s book, this website….
Blessings to all.
xx
By the way, I loved this article; just love the way Elizabeth writes… (Read her book many, many times, haha… it feels my insides with bliss!).
Thanks again, Elizabeth!
Thank you so much for posting this. I really needed to read this, this evening. 🙂
Hi Elizabeth,
I read your book Manifesting Love and have been working on the techniques for about a month. I met a guy and we had the most amazing time together. I felt an instant connection. After we spent the weekend together he kind of disappeared but I’m sure he is for me. He hasn’t contected me first but responds to my texts. However, I am filled with anxiety when I text him, which I know is causing resistance. Should I stop trying to contact him and let the universe take over?
Liz, Are you sure you read the book completely? There’s an entire chapter that answers your questions and tells you exactly what to do.