I get a lot of emails and comments asking for Law of Attraction advice, so I thought I'd start a series of posts answering your questions. Keep sending in your questions!
This week's question comes from “Stuck in a Cycle” – wondering why her manifestations don't last…
“One thing I did want to request a post about is the cycles people go through with manifesting specific desires (I can’t be the only one this happens to). For example if someone manifests their desire and then pushes it away and then manifests it again. What things can be addressed to stop the cycle and keep your manifestation? Thanks!”
My Answer
I understand how frustrating this can be! You work so hard to manifest what you want, and then it slips through your fingers. Why won't it stick around?
The simplest answer is that you're still using the Law of Attraction when you push it away, you probably just don't realize it.
What does this mean?
You know how in order to manifest something you have to be in vibrational alignment with it? And whatever you are in vibrational alignment with is what is in your life?
Well, when you draw something to you, it's because you're in alignment with it. When you push it away, you're no longer in alignment with it.
When you were trying to manifest your desire, you probably focused really hard on your feelings, being grateful, and being at one with your manifestation.
But once it manifested, you probably changed what you were doing.
Maybe you weren't comfortable having it in your life.
Maybe you were no longer grateful…perhaps feeling a little frustrated about something or even taking it for granted.
Maybe you started worrying you would lose it or it would be taken away from you.
Perhaps you had resistance or a limiting belief crop up. A little voice may have been in your head saying, “I'm not good enough,” or “I'm not sure this is what I want.”
Whatever the cause or causes were, you ultimately used the Law of Attraction to push it away from you. You didn't realize you were doing it, but it happened nonetheless.
That's how powerful the Law of Attraction is!
It's always working, even when you aren't paying attention to it.
Just because you manifested your dream doesn't mean the Law of Attraction stops. It doesn't mean you can fall back into old habits or negativity.
If you want to create permanent change, you have to change.
The cycle begins and ends with you.
So the next time you manifest something, if you want it to stay in your life, keep using the Law of Attraction. Continue to appreciate your manifestation, feel good about it, send it heart energy, and continue to be at one with it.
You'll find your manifestation will stick around.
What burning Law of Attraction question do you need advice on?
Hi Elizabeth
I am unsure of how to email you. I would love to see a future post on manifesting having a baby fertility too.
Thank you
Helen
Helen – you should be able to do that here: https://www.applythelawofattraction.com/contact/
Hi Elizabeth,
Talk about perfect timing with this post. Obviously this fits my situation too… Manifest my guy back, he goes back to his ex, Manifested him again, he went back to his ex again. My question is this… I know my limited beliefs and attachment have caused me to push this away and manifest my fears, my concern is this: Its happened to me so many times now, that I’ve become numb and am having a hard time connecting to my desire, for him or any guy for that matter. I feel frustrated and humiliated (even though I know I probably created the situation to begin with). It’s harder to connect to heart energy and to visualize and feel like my desires are happening. I’m struggling right now to even feel things period… I’m kind of in a blur. I know I still want to be in a relationship with this guy but how do you reconnect to your desire when the cycle has you feeling like you were beat up? I know one possibility is to focus on myself, but want to make sure that I also manifest my desires?
Hey Claudia,
“I know one possibility is to focus on myself, but want to make sure that I also manifest my desires?”
That’s not just one possibility, that is the only possibility.
Yes, you are able to keep attracting him into your life, but you are not a vibrational match to him, so that is why he keeps leaving your life.
If you were a constant vibrational match, you would still be with him.
However, right now you are allowing circumstances and other people’s opinions about you to determine how you feel about you. And when you do that, you cannot maintain a steady vibration. As long as you put other people’s feelings and opinions about you over your own, your vibration and focus will constantly fluctuate.
In order to be in a happy, stable relationship with him, or any man for that matter, you must first know what a happy and stable relationship is by being in a happy and loving relationship with yourself, first.
Thank you so much for this comment! It makes so much sense now. I really had no clue why my guy kept leaving, or I kept being in and out of my parents house, in and out of work. I was all over the place! My vibration was fluctuating. A bipolar vibration if you will. Very up and down, rapidly. But after reading this comment I now realize I have been struggling with my relationship with myself, what others say/do/think. I am taking the plunge towards firm self-love. I need to figure out who I am, know, trust, love myself. After that, all those amazing things I once vibrationally matched will return.
Hi Claudia,
I bought Elizabeth’s book awhile ago and recently had a relationship end, so I thought of “dusting off” the book and reading it again. Your situation sounds very similar to my own, although it’s only been one round with my boyfriend. After our break up, I relapsed into a very severe depression (something i’ve struggled with for years) and so, I find it very hard to feel motivated and hopeful about things. Like you said, I too feel beaten up. Where do you go from there? How do you let go of the pain in order to move forward with manifesting the relationship? How do you not let reality bring you down? I know you asked the question because you don’t have the answers, but maybe Brian does (hi Brian) or someone else? I want to think of my boyfriend and feel positive, hopeful and sure. I also want fear to take an exit so that when we’re back together, I can maintain the relationship. Thanks in advance for your help!
Hi Elizabeth, I’m so glad I found your website. I live in Asia and amazon does not sell your book in the ‘Asia and pacific’ region. Is there anywhere else that I may purchase a copy of your love book to be read on my ipad?
Thank you
It is available in the Asia and Pacific region here: https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/B00AGKV59Y
Hi Elizabeth,
I just wanted to thank you for keeping up with and having this blog, it’s just a wonderful resource and I’m just grateful for it, as I’m sure a lot of us who read it are.
Have a great day!
Thanks Jay! I appreciate it!